One of the ingredients of a 'Healthy Marital Relationship' -
There is increasing evidence that a good, healthy relationship is not simply
the absence of conflict (e.g., Campbell & Fruzzetti, 2004). Rather, a
healthy relationship for both partners includes constructive conflict and
high levels of intimacy (e.g., Fruzzetti, 1996). Clearly, the “benefits” or
“goodies” (reinforcers) in relationships are intimacy and closeness. We define “intimacy” as a pattern of interacting in which one person is able to
disclose accurately her or his thoughts, emotions, wants, and so on, and in
response to those disclosures, the other person expresses acceptance and
understanding through validation, which in turn leads to the experience of
closeness and of being understood and/or supported (see also Fruzzetti &
Jacobson, 1990). Of course, these behaviors are mutual and reciprocal.
Thus, intimacy behaviors include accurate self-disclosures plus those responses that demonstrate awareness of the partner, understanding of the
partner, and support of the partner. We call responses that communicate acceptance and understanding validating. Thus, the self-disclosure/validating response cycle describes the core of intimate interactions." - in Mindfulness and Acceptance, Ed by S. C. Hayes et al, 2004
There is increasing evidence that a good, healthy relationship is not simply
the absence of conflict (e.g., Campbell & Fruzzetti, 2004). Rather, a
healthy relationship for both partners includes constructive conflict and
high levels of intimacy (e.g., Fruzzetti, 1996). Clearly, the “benefits” or
“goodies” (reinforcers) in relationships are intimacy and closeness. We define “intimacy” as a pattern of interacting in which one person is able to
disclose accurately her or his thoughts, emotions, wants, and so on, and in
response to those disclosures, the other person expresses acceptance and
understanding through validation, which in turn leads to the experience of
closeness and of being understood and/or supported (see also Fruzzetti &
Jacobson, 1990). Of course, these behaviors are mutual and reciprocal.
Thus, intimacy behaviors include accurate self-disclosures plus those responses that demonstrate awareness of the partner, understanding of the
partner, and support of the partner. We call responses that communicate acceptance and understanding validating. Thus, the self-disclosure/validating response cycle describes the core of intimate interactions." - in Mindfulness and Acceptance, Ed by S. C. Hayes et al, 2004
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